Lack of Motivation to Start?

2021.09.26 02:56 tryingmybest603 Lack of Motivation to Start?

I’m a spouse of an addict and I was to do my best to support him through this...but I’m worried he’s just not ready to do the work. I discovered his addiction to cam girls accidentally, and he denied it for a while and even twisted it to make me feel like I was crazy for asking. He finally acknowledged there was a problem when I bluffed and said I knew about “the girls online”. When I read other people’s posts on this sub about recovery I’ve noticed that mention “coming clean”. I picture this meaning they go to a point where they decided they needed to tell their partner, out of respect for them and for the relationship, and admitted that they needed help and support. I feel like “admitting you have a problem” is a crucial first step, as they say in the 12 step program. However, while I do feel like my husband admitted to the problem... it was to pacify me and end the wasn’t coming from a place of remorse and regret. Definitely not respect...due to all the lies and twisting of information. The other thing I notice in this sub as being a commonality in recovery is the feeling of disgust and hate for the habit. So many people post with intense feelings about their frustrations with the habit being so hard to quit. They are passionate that they want this out of their life and they don’t want to lose any more from it.
My husband doesn’t seem to care to that extent. I’ve been noticing how truly apathetic he is about his “recovery” or lack there of, and, while I try to be gentle and understanding and supportive, nothing seems to matter or get a reaction. I provide resources, I send him links to counselors from our insurance page, I send him podcasts and articles, (none of which are accusatory but very sympathetic to the addict and their struggles.) But, nothing changes. He doesn’t seem to see it as something that requires HIS effort. I think he just wants to wake up one day and it be cured.
I told him this summer that if he doesn’t start some sort of counseling or program or something to get the ball rolling, by the end of September, I’m done being “the support”. It can’t be all one-sided. He has to do something. He heard me. But hasn’t done anything. Here we are, end of September, and I mentioned it this morning and asked if he had connected with a program yet. Nope. “I can look into it later today”, he said. like he was doing ME a favor by looking into it.
I just don’t get it.
I have to say, it feels like he’s ready to throw away his wife and marriage, so he doesn’t have to do the work. So he can continue with the cam girls. Can anyone relate? Is this addict behavior?
I feel like the cam girls have won this one. And I am the loser.
Of course this hurts so much. I feel like I’m not worth fighting for.
Do you guys have any input about finding motivation to start recovery? Has anyone felt stuck at the beginning like this?
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2021.09.26 02:56 GotSomeProblems2021 Recently separated, should reconciliation always be the goal?

I'm posting this here to hopefully get the thoughts of people who are married still and not people who are actively divorcing. I'm on the spectrum so I realize I may be interpreting things wrong and really need perspective. Please be frank, and thank you in advance.
I'm the wife and I'm the one that left. We are both in our 40s and have several children. My husband had been behaving really erratically for months and refusing to stop or get help. He has always shown signs of depression and anxiety, but this was extreme to a point where I didn't feel like the kids and I were safe living with him acting like that. In the end he was staying up all day and night, wearing the same clothes for a week, throwing things, yelling, saying he didn't remember things he just said, having severe mood swings, and finally, making threats with a loaded gun. I took the kids and left after the gun incident. I hoped it would be a wake up call when I told him I wasnt coming back until he got some help.
I thought he would snap to and get some help, and that I'd be back home in a few weeks with my normal husband, but unfortunately, its been months and he still hasn't gotten help and has said he doesn't intend to. He says it's my fault he was acting like that (again, I'm on the spectrum, so it's possible that I really am hard to live with). I've kept things really quiet about his behavior to protect his reputation, and only told immediate family and our pastor. He has gone around telling everyone we know that I'm awful and just him left for no reason. He cries in front of our kids and tells them mommy ruined our family. He has apologized a lot, and says I'm welcome to come home and he doesn't think he will be like that anymore, but still insists that it was because I'm so frustrating to live with. Our pastor says I should go home and that leaving was the wrong thing to do.
None of my church is speaking to me. My entire family of inlaws has shut me out. Our older kids are fighting and not speaking to each other over this. Some are with him now and some are with me.
I'm feeling really confused right now. I still love him. I hate having our family split up. I hate seeing the kids be sad. I don't want to go through a divorce. I also don't think I could take my kids back to what was happening.
Can I just get your thoughts please. What would you do if this happened in your marriage?
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